The Friendship Crisis
Finding, Making, and Keeping Friends
When You’re Not a Kid Anymore
Every woman has conflicts or problems with friends once in a while. And all women go through stages in their lives when they lose friends or feel like they don’t have enough. Problems with our pals nag at us, perhaps keep us up at night. Loneliness for friends can dampen our spirits and make us question ourselves. People don’t talk about this much. Women going through it often feel alone, sometimes even embarrassed. I know I felt that way when I had trouble making friends in my new town.
“The Friendship Crisis” flings open the door to all this. It says, “Hey, it’s not just you. A lot of us are going through this.”
There are so many shifts in our modern lives that shear us from friends or strain our ties with them. We may think we’re too busy to see pals as we’re tugged by demands of family, work and perhaps even caring for elderly parents. We become divorced or widowed. We move to a new town or ditch the office to work at home. We have kids or maybe all our friends are having them and we’re not. We may go through a health crisis.
All these experiences can fray or sometimes end our friendships. “The Friendship Crisis” outlines the flashing danger zones that can threaten relationships. It suggests what you can do to hold on to and strengthen your friendships. But we often need to find new pals, which is darn hard as an adult. It feels awkward, like trying to remember the steps of an old dance. And plenty of people don’t seem willing to crack open their circles to admit someone new.
The book offers a clear blueprint to make new friends with smart strategies and lots of success stories from women who forged new connections against the odds. Along the way, I also share my own experiences and reflections about finding new pals and valuing the ones you have.
All of us need to continue to freshen our friendship pool because life chips away at our circles. We can never assume we have all the friends we’ll ever need.
The book is divided into two parts. The first, “The Thieves of Friendship,” explains how various life stages and experiences affect our friendships.
The second part, “The Tango of Friendship,” details the nitty gritty of making and keeping new friends. You’ll learn how many times you can call someone new without seeming pushy and where to meet potential pals no matter what your stage in life. You’ll understand what attracts some women as friends but not others, and why some people just don’t return phone calls. You’ll learn how to manage conflicts with your friends (so you don’t lose them) and strengthen your relationships.
It is my hope that this book will encourage you to reach out to new people and nourish the relationships you already have.
-- Marla Paul